Are you a ninja in lurking?

Just a quick update regarding the Rollerskating Party. Country Man and I had a great time, until one of the dudes suggested we play the Hokey Pokey on skates. It was probably the lamest thing I’ve ever done in my life so far.

Anyway, a couple of the girls weren’t skating due to a fractured wrist (the friend didn’t skate to show support), so I handed them my camera to take some photos. As you can see, they took a photo of themselves and I happened to be in the background.

South Dakota country wife

But I was skating, and not being a complete introvert as it appears. You would be surprised at how quiet people assume I am. Well, maybe you wouldn’t. I’m not sure.

I am often asked why I am so “shy” and “quiet”, which at one time confused me because I didn’t see myself that way, which led to more confusion as to why total strangers felt compelled to offer their professional evaluation of my character. Mostly it was old men who were looking for an excuse to poke me in the ribs, which nearly sparked the hidden ninja dwelling within.

Since it’s not my desire to seem unapproachable, involving myself with the youth on a weekly basis encourages me to grow in areas I might be coming up short in.

On another note, it’s a beautiful day today and I cannot wait to get outside.

South Dakota field
South Dakota Kitty
Before I head off into the sunrise, please share your thoughts with me … How do people tend to describe you? Does it bring out the ninja in you at times? If not, does this mean I’ve missed my calling?

South Dakota piggy

Ninja Pig


35 thoughts on “Are you a ninja in lurking?

  1. In my experience, people always tend to think they know me (and others) better than they actually do. They notice one or two characteristics and slap a label on you – good, bad, or indifferent, you’re labeled, wrapped, and done. I’ve always found people to be multi-faceted – it takes many years of friendship and communication to discover every new angle and allow for change that years inevitably bring. I think people who decide your character before getting to know you have very one-dimension perspectives.

    On a better note, what a beautiful day you have – we’re getting snow!

  2. Oh can I relate to this post. I have been labeled “quiet, shy, introverted” etc. all of my life. I like to think I’m just “thoughtful, observant” or even “calm”. πŸ™‚ All good traits to have in my humble opinion! Both my kids are the exact opposite of me. Very talkative, full of energy and extroverted. Go figure.

    • haha! Very great traits to have! And your thoughtfulness creates some well-written, fun posts for our enjoyment. I was being a bit of a drama queen for humor’s purpose in my post, because most people see me as a quieter person, but not shy. However, those old men are relentless! πŸ˜‰

  3. People often see me as an extrovert – confident, bold, outgoing, friendly and I am exactly that unless I’m in a new environment. What people don’t know is that inside I am really shy. I was shy as a kid. I am still shy in a group until I get to know people. I would rather smile (as sign of openness and an outward sign of friendliness), observe (assessing people, looking for an opening where I can fit in) and be a bit selective who I want to get to know better. Oh, don ‘t get me wrong, I’ll never ignore or reject anyone, I talk to everyone. I accept everyone and can’t stand people that judge and reject people with snobbery. I tend to gravitate toward fun, outgoing, friendly and confident people but battle with a fear of rejection so sometimes if these people appear to be having way too much and seem really close-knit, I may hold myself back a little from that crown — I don’t want to impose or assume. I was the kid in high school who not popular by the cool kids but was well-liked by the underdogs, the unpopular kids. I wanted to be popular but wasn’t. Now, I am completely confident in who I am and who I don’t want to be. When we were kids, being popular or well-liked by the cool kids meant everything. As adults, we use the words “accepted” and “well-liked” instead of “popular”. However, I have finally come to terms with who I am therefore my confidence has risen, people like me, I am funny and outgoing. The only people I really feel insecure around are the “choleric” personalities who take charge, exude total confidence, like to control everyone and everything and think they know it all. That’s because I don’t confront well — I just avoid these kinds of people or worse, leave the scene if I’m totally uncomfortable.

  4. First few meets ppl gen think I am quiet.. But once they know me, they are surprise at how much I can talk…

    Maybe us bloggers are like that. WE wait and talk sense. πŸ™‚

  5. I think others would describe me as loving, friendly and inclusive. All great in my book! Wish we had a close-up on skates — glad you had a great time! I have to stand mostly still during the hokey pokey. I do all the arm motions etc. but cannot spin — skating’s hard enough w/ Meniere’s — can’t be greedy! Happy Weekend!

  6. Loving the pig! People who know me well describe me as cheeky, outgoing and opinionated. People who don’t know me feel I’m shy and quiet – and I am – until I know them well and am comfortable with them. BUT If I’m not comfortable I get quiet, even if I know you well. Does that make sense? Ninja!

    πŸ™‚ MJ

  7. For what it’s worth, you don’t seem to quiet or shy when you write. You have a warm, inviting outlook, and you come across as friendly.

    Don’t worry about those others. πŸ™‚

  8. Glad the skating party went well! I didn’t want to say it before, but my mom-in-law broke her arm going skating for the first time in years with my nephews several, several years ago.

    I AM an introvert, until you get to know me or unless I am writing in semi-anonymity on my blog ( I am okay with that. I don’t have people ask me why I am so quiet, so I don’t have to contend with an inner Ninja there, but I do wonder at the number of complete strangers who choose me as the person to ask questions or directions of! I must have a harmless looking face or something!

  9. I wonder how much physical characteristics and body language play into this. As a woman who is six foot tall and a bit of a partially sunny day socially, varying wildly from super warm and outgoing to awkward and shy at times, I am never ever percieved of as shy. When I am actually shy, I come across as forbidding and intimidating. I have had to argue with people that I am in fact sometimes shy. Meanwhile, one of my (much shorter) sisters can rock the same body language and be poked heartily by old men, triggering her ninja in hiding.

  10. I’m not shy at all… But I am on the quiet side, especially in loud crowds. So when people start to call me shy, just because I’m happy to sit back and watch, it does bring out ninja feelings. Ha, ha. I don’t like it one bit! But then I remind myself that they don’t know me and that I don’t really care what they think. πŸ™‚ I know who I am… and so do my friends!

  11. I read a fascinating article in Psychology Today last year and it inspired me so much I wrote a whole post about it! It was called “Revenge of the Introverts” and talked about how while on the surface, we tend to be “shy”, “quiet”, or “social awkward”, on the inside we are usually analysing everything, thinking about things, and reflecting on our surroundings. It was a great read πŸ™‚

  12. I am sure people label me as quiet until they get to know me, but that is mainly because I have been married to a very social person for so long. When we are in a social situation, he does most of the talking unless it is my family, then I take over.
    Where I used to work, they always laughed when I told them how nervous it made me to speak in front of people (and still terrifies the bejesus out of me) because I conducted many training sessions and audits. Just because I did it doesn’t mean I was comfortable!
    It may be best that you are “Quiet” since you live in the country and don’t necessarily need constant interaction.
    Have a good week. Hope you are getting spring weather.

  13. This is such a good question! I just started a new job and can’t help but wonder- how do people see me?? I always wonder if I seem shy, or fake, or bold or nice, or smart… I guess if I actually were “bold” I’d just go ahead and ask!

  14. People always think I am very smart. I know it is a huge compliment, but I find it a little scary sometimes because I am not that smart, and I am afraid I will say something dumb that will prove it!
    And people tend to say I am quiet, but those who truly know me would beg to differ.

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