Sense of Wonder and a Dance

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When a girl first marries the man she adores, she easily adapts to please. In my case, for example:

Him: Would you like to drive around for hours on end and look at deer with me?
Me: Yes! Of course! I love deer and their deer ways!

Him: Would you like to sit with me in the bitter cold while I sight in my rifle?
Me: Yes! I love rifles! Oh, they’re so loud! Oh well, the more deafening, the better, I say!

Him: Wanna ride in the one-seat tractor with me?
Me: Sure! A bucket seat will help with posture!

Ah, love is blind.

However, this girl has learned a few things after four years of heavenly matrimony, and that is while love is about sacrifice and dying to self, it is also about seeking balance.

I still ride with him often. But I don’t care to stare at every single deer, either… really, I don’t.

So I find balance.

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He scouts, I knit.

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He searches calm and determined; I quietly click my camera toward the beauty in front of us.

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And while we express our affection for beauty, for nature, for God’s most extravagant displays of artistry and creativity in different forms, we both share in them the same, together as one.

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And in the spirit of wondering, of sharing in what we love, be it ivory-colored horns on a mighty buck or the way the snow comes in to transform our little land in the country to a slice of heaven, our hearts are united in this.

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It is in this process we find our balance, and in this balance, we share ourselves. Not in trying to please by conformity, but by authenticity. By welcoming the way our hearts are created.

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You find what creates joy, and then intertwine and mold together until harmony surfaces.

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Love, like nature, is a grand dance.

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57 thoughts on “Sense of Wonder and a Dance

  1. hahahaha–i would not like a lot of those things, but it seems you’ve found a way to make them yours with your camera. you take me into your life–which is about as far away from the hectic pace of L.A. that you can get. Thanks.

  2. Beautifully written and illustrated. I, too, am married to a hunter and we have learned how to make hunting season enjoyable for the entire family! I won’t be sharing your pics with my husband, though or he might request an invite to visit y’all!!

  3. You live in a place of great beauty! My husband and I like to share an appreciation of nature in Michigan’s Upper Peninsula where there are waterfalls, Lake Superior shoreline, and miles and miles of forest.

  4. You are wise for your young years….much wiser than some couples 2-3x your age.
    Your pictures make me want to visit SD, so much! Sometimes the hills can look lonely…..but, I find a peace in that.

    • I must concur with my wife’s comment on this post! She and I often wish aloud that we had, at an earlier age, gained the insight into life and relationship that you speak of in your post . But then we remember that it is the “now” that is truely important and we are immediately thankful for the life and spiritual growth that we have attained together, separateley, but yet in unison…

      Great post Mrs. Country Wife!

  5. Beautiful pictures as always. Yours always sounds like a good life even though not always easy. I got through two rounds of sighting in rifles this year with hearing protection and I drew things on cardboard for the targets. Knitting while scouting is probably good too. Knitting doesn’t remove you from your environment the way reading a book might. Happy December.

  6. “love like nature is a grand dance”. Isn’t it? I love your humorous style relating the ways you adapted to your husband. I can relate, I too adapted to my boyfriend in the earlier days of our relationship. We’ve been together five amazing years now. I strive to find balance in all aspects of my life, and it gives me such great joy to grow together as a couple, coming together in the things we share, like enjoying the beach, he may choose to lie in the sunshine and nap while I’d rather be hoopdancing or beach-combing, but we are there, together, sharing the same blue sky and sunshine and that is what matters in the end. Together we are stronger if we still maintain our own sense of self and identity which I feel contributes to the relationship. Lovely photos. I always enjoy taking the beautiful journey into your world via your blog. Thank you!

  7. This could have been my dating scenario – nearly thirty years ago. Now I take the lap top or a good book as I am not a knitter. So from a long-time-wed to the newly wed, adapting is the key and works wonders. Your pictures are stunning.

  8. You’ve so beautifully captured the knowledge that love is process, not product; that it is adaptive and interactive, not reactive and captive. And once again you’ve set it all in a perfectly marvelous photo-essay. Well done again, my dear.

  9. Through 29 years of marriage, I, too, have learned to take this approach (although it took me way longer than you). For example, my husband invited me to attend a gas and steam engine show for many years. I always declined because I wasn’t all that interested. Then one year I decided to tag along, camera in tow. Now guess who doesn’t want to leave the show because she is having way too much fun photographing tractors and people and…

  10. Every time I visit a new blog, I see a comment from you on it, so I decided maybe I should visit YOUR blog this time. I’m impressed.

    This post is beautiful–verbally and visually. Also timely, as I think I may be on my way to marrying a Country Man myself . . . Thanks for the insights.

  11. Very pretty. I havent found this balance yet, so I am alone. I spent the day flirting with women from 21 to 55 years old. It was fun! But now I am home alone, and the sun is setting outside my window.

  12. My wife of 20 years moved out last week for the 2nd time in ten years. She’s searching for something missing in her life. Dr Phil often says that the same couple with the same quality-of-life can have differing marriage outcomes due to one thing, EXPECTATIONS. If couple “A” has down-to-earth expectations that a relationship takes some give-and-take and patience and work it’s never going to be 100% perfect, then that is a recipe for a strong and enduring bond. If couple “B” has expectations for wealth, no hardships, and continual happiness, then that’s a recipe for repeated disappointments because life is not “a bed of roses” for 99% of couples. I love the fact that you grasp so much wisdom and skip all the petty stuff and share time with your husband, but also assert your preferences to photograph and appreciate the beauty of the land in your individual way. I sense a beautiful balance in your view of how you “are” inside your marriage and how you “are” when you spend time with your husband “the country man”. Just beautiful. I am so happy for the both of you. Please keep writing, because you inspire me to continue to believe is marriage and in positive, life-loving wives!

  13. I love the way you write, your view and the photographs you take. It is so full of love, life and peace. I look forward in reading your future post.

    Wishing you and your family all the best in this holiday season and the upcoming year.

  14. Love this πŸ™‚ My husband is an avid hunter. I can’t count how many times he has stopped our car in the middle of the road to point out a beautiful buck sitting in the trees. After 11 years, it still makes me smile.

    And you’re right. Marriage and love is all about balance. You are a smart lady. Love the photos… love the artistry your words add to them πŸ™‚

  15. I just have to let you know that I am still giggling over what you wrote in this post nearly 2 months later!

    “When a girl first marries the man she adores, she easily adapts to please. In my case, for example:

    Him: Would you like to drive around for hours on end and look at deer with me?
    Me: Yes! Of course! I love deer and their deer ways!

    Him: Would you like to sit with me in the bitter cold while I sight in my rifle?
    Me: Yes! I love rifles! Oh, they’re so loud! Oh well, the more deafening, the better, I say!

    Him: Wanna ride in the one-seat tractor with me?
    Me: Sure! A bucket seat will help with posture!

    Ah, love is blind.”

    So very, very funny, and very, very true!!!
    Thank you for this continuous laugh! XO

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